Do you ever remember your younger years, the way you looked, your thoughts and opinions and your plans for the future, and start asking yourself “How did I end up here?”
Many people often wonder about the way their lives have turned out and it’s completely normal. Very few people make all of the dreams they had in their 20s come true.
However, it’s the unexpected things that happened that have shaped you into an experienced and mature person you are today.
So, are you kind of feeling sorry for your younger self and want to give them a few tips about life? Here’s what I would advise my younger self.
Don’t forget the things you used to love
Remember how much you enjoyed dancing when you were a teenager? And spending hours and hours on writing lyrics and music for your “songs”? What happened that made you give that all up to follow the crowd and opt for a corporate path? Even though that decision wasn’t all wrong for you, there are other options apart from having a 9-to-5 job. Don’t rush into something just because everyone else is doing it.
Don’t worry about every little thing
When you think about it, you have maybe two or three things during your life to truly worry about!
That guy you cried about all through high school wouldn’t even catch your attention now. Remember that stupid thing you said in that big meeting and you wished you were dead? Well, no one remembers it anymore and no one cared in the first place.
However, as you get older, real things that deserve your attention start to emerge. So, enjoy your young years and be carefree while you can.
It’s OK to be lost and confused
Do you feel scared when you see all those successful and driven people go fearlessly through life? Doesn’t it seem like they have it all figured out?
And there’s you, fresh off the college, lost and confused, not knowing where you’re headed. It’s totally ok. Try your hand at many different things and dedicate your time to things that make you happy.
Working on finding yourself is never a waste of time and all those precious experiences will shape you into a person you are today.
So, take time to smell the flowers and enjoy the journey instead of rushing to get to the destination.
Start saving for the future
Just because you have money now, it doesn’t mean things will never change. Don’t spend money on things you don’t care about, and splurge on the things you do.
However, always be reasonable.
You’re not a millionaire and you can’t really afford that second car or those stupid designer shoes. Living a few days as a rich person isn’t worth those horrible few days before your next paycheck where you’re trying to survive on ramen noodles and the cheapest pizza you can find.
Also, are you happy to live in a retirement home or at your kids’ home when you get older? If you appreciate your freedom now, you’ll appreciate it even more when you’re a senior.
So, start thinking about homes and retirement house plans in advance because there’s nothing better than having a place you can call your own.
Ask for help
Young people tend to think that their wisdom is never-ending and that parents, other colleagues and seniors know nothing and only want to manipulate them into following their ways. However, once you get older, you’ll realize that your father was right about that boy, your mother was right about school and your grandparents were right about that investment.
So, don’t be too proud to take advice and follow it. You can continue being open to suggestions even when you’re a senior.
Now that you’re a well-rounded person with many positive and negative experiences, you have the wisdom you can share with other people. And even though you can’t really go back in time to give advice to your younger self, you can help other kids live their lives to the fullest.
Author: Claire Adams:
Claire is a personal and professional development expert who believes that a positive attitude is one of the keys to success.
You can find her online writing and giving tips about lifestyle and development as a regular contributor at highstylife.com.
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