Although we lived through the whole make love not war; love the one you’re with, generational b.s., we don’t exactly run across the street to talk to someone about our sex lives. . .
Whether they be good, bad, mediocre, or ear-popping.
We may not be talking about sex, but we’re still doin’ it:
A National Health and Sexuality Survey, in which 1,939 heterosexual elderly people participated in 2009, show that 62.3% of men and 37.4% of women are sexually active. The most common practices are kisses, caressing and vaginal penetration. On the other hand, the least practiced are masturbation and oral sex…”
Physical changes associated with aging, could effect our sex lives.
But, sexual problems among the elderly aren’t an inevitable consequence of aging, “problems are responses to the presence of stressors in multiple life domains.” Sex and Senior Citizens
What I think these doctor researchers, meant to say: if we (senior citizen) lose a loved one, especially our partner, and we then start having physical, or emotional, problems of a sexual nature, that loss is usually the cause.
Turned out that older women’s sexual health was more sensitive to their physical health than were the men in the test. From that data, the researchers suggested severity of impact may be partly gender specific.
Women, before and after menopause, are affected by changes in their hormones, especially from losing estrogen.
Losing estrogen can cause fatigue, not to mention causing uncomfortable hot flashes. During menopause, some women lose interest in sex.
Plus, an aging woman can experience dryness within the vagina, making sex painful and uncomfortable.
Vagina dryness is often caused by estrogen loss. Atrophy of the vagina muscles can also happen with aging. Now a-days, supplements, shots and therapy from a woman’s doctors can help her with these problems.
As men age, some of us could experience erectile dysfunction. We may feel like having sex, but our body won’t get with the program.
Also, it could take longer for blood flow to cause an erection. After getting an erection, it’s sometimes more difficult to sustain.
The most common causes of erectile dysfunction, and the latter condition are caused by heart problems, blood pressure levels, smoking, and reactions from prescribed medicines.
All of these physical situations, though sexual in nature, are bound to affect a couple’s emotional health.
Without the intimate connection of sex, many partners report feeling down. And they could develop institutional depression if they’re not dealt with. (after 41 years of being with the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen, I know the more we do it, the happier it is around here.)
These feelings can snowball and effect our ability to become aroused, on the first place.
There’s no reason we can’t resume an active sex life because there is help available.
Women can take medication to reduce the effects of menopause. And, safe lubricants can help to increase the fluid in the vagina making sex enjoyable for woman.
For us men, we can talk to our doctor about getting a checkup to test and find exactly what’s ailing us.
Ideas for me, your aging related story, or comments are very damn welcome…