Today’s News About:
- The 2 Types Of Self-Awareness
- The Rules Of Successful Relationships
- Possible Cure For Baldness Found
- Don’t Throw Out Grandma Just Yet
- Ants Are Evil Little Devils
And, we’ll begin with the following:
2 Types Of Self Awareness:
According to Tasha Eurich, author, organizational psychologist, who’s recently published a book about her research into self-awareness, there are 2 parts of self-awareness: internal and external, i.e, how we see ourselves vs. how others see us…
At 1st glance, that’a hardly a revelation.
Yet, some results of her study, have made me re-think something I learned from my Mom: “What other people think of me – be it good or bad – means the same – nothing!”
I’ve used, and often misused, Mom’s dictum since I became aware that I had to share the world with, (longish sigh), others.
Mom was brutal with her assessment of others, and herself. Yet, she lived for herself without seeming selfish or insensitive.
I’ve tried, but I’ve no way matched her skills.
Back to our discussion about the 2 sides of self-awareness:
In a recent interview with Tasha Eurich, she had this interesting, thoughtful factoid about the findings of her research:
The journey to self-awareness is one that lasts a lifetime – it requires courage, energy, and commitment to see ourselves more clearly.
…the process is complex, it always starts with a simple (but not easy) decision: to question our assumptions about ourselves, to take charge and proactively examine how we’re seen, and to pair our quest for the truth with a positive mind-set and self-acceptance.
In a nutshell, we start by making the decision to become braver but wiser….”
Because I’ve been working on the act of ‘beingness’ (my take on self-awareness), I enjoyed the interview, and will probably end up buying her book: Insight: Why We’re Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life
IF you’re also interested in this kinda woo-woo stuff, you can read the interview when you click on the following blue link: What Other People Think of You
The Rules Of Successful Relationships:
On Dec. 13th, Treasa & I will have been together 45 years.
I’m not an easy guy to spend a couple hours with, let alone live with 24/7 – 365 X 45.
How she’s done it with style, humor and love, I’ll never understand, but am forever grateful.
Me, on the other hand, I’m a Saint to have put up this long with the prettiest (inside & out) girl I’ve ever seen. 😉
Yeah, I’m bragging .
While a lot of our relationship success was probably luck, I also think that long-lasting relationships have some qualities in common.
For example, laughter and liking each other, are sometimes more important than that elusive feeling of ‘being-in-love’.
Recently, Mark Manson, engaged to be married, and wanting the union to last, set about discovering reasons why relationships were successful.
Using crowdsourcing to get answers about successful relationships, he received the following feedback from nearly 1,500 people:
- Be together for the right reasons
- Have realistic expectations about relationships and romance
- The most important factor in a relationship is not communication, but respect
- Talk openly about everything, especially the stuff that hurts
- A healthy relationship means two healthy individuals
- Give each other space
- You and your partner will grow and change in unexpected ways; embrace it
- Get good at fighting
- Get good at forgiving
- The little things add up to big things
- Sex matters… a LOT
- Be practical, and create relationship rules
From living in a happy relationship that has survived despite challenges, I wholeheartedly endorse Mark’s findings.
But, what really makes these insights interesting are some of the reasons people gave for their answers. For example, one explanation for the importance of respect, was:
…If you have two different individuals sharing a life together, it’s inevitable that they will have different values and perspectives on some things and clash over it.
The key here is not changing the other person—as the desire to change your partner is inherently disrespectful (to both them and yourself)—but rather it’s to simply abide by the difference, love them despite it, and when things get a little rough around the edges, to forgive them for it…”
Get more comments like this when you click on the following blue link: Rules Of Successful Relationships
Possible Cure For Baldness Found:
Well, it was by accident. The possible cure for baldness and grey hair, that is…
Here’s what happened:
Researchers at UT Southwestern Medical Center were studying how certain kinds of tumors form (a disorder called Neurofibromatosis Type 1, a rare genetic disease that causes tumors to grow on nerves.).
Dr. Lu Le, Associate Professor of Dermatology with the Harold C. Simmons Comprehensive Cancer Center at UT Southwestern, was quoted as saying:
…we ended up learning why hair turns gray and discovering the identity of the cell that directly gives rise to hair.
..With this knowledge, we hope in the future to create a topical compound or to safely deliver the necessary gene to hair follicles to correct these cosmetic problems…”
Looks like the researchers are basing their theory on tests already done on lab rats, and are now looking to test humans. No I won’t volunteer. I like my head just as it is!
Interesting stuff, though. Read more about it when you click on the following blue link: Possible Cure For Baldness Found
The scholarly version: Hair Growth
Don’t Throw Out Grandma Just Yet:
Just when I was thinking that today’s elderly aren’t given their just due, as they were when I was a kid, I run into this delightful essay entitled: “What Good Is Grandma?”
Written by David P. Barash, a Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington, he argues that ‘The Great Recession’, has allowed grandparents to fulfill our intended biological role as caregivers for our grandchildren.
Counter to mainstream society’s take that lack of employment, or underemployment, has forced us to help our kids & kid’s kids, Barash sees this trend as a good thing for all generations involved. (Know that I’m really simplifying an excellent read…)
For theory backup, Professor Barash uses examples from the animal kingdom, natural selection, our biological clock and history.
Enjoyable, and as I already mentioned, delightful stuff. Read it when you click on the following blue link: Don’t Throw Out Grandma Just Yet
Ants Are Evil Little Devils:
Now that I’ve escaped Florida’s nasty fire ants, I rarely notice the comings and goings of ants.
Liked to watch them when I was a kid. Nowadays, just want them outta my house.
Yet, this week I had the pleasure of reading the following post: “Top 10 Facts That Prove Ants Are Evil”
To be honest, I thought it was more funny than scary.
But then, that’s the same reaction I get from horror films. And I’m Not Sick, thank you very much…
To see if you’d enjoy this, here’s a quick sample:
- Ants Kill Old Zombie Friends
- They Own Slaves
- Army Ants Scare Elephants (OK, this one is a ‘little’ on the dark side)
Interested? Click on the following blue link: Ants Are Evil Little Devils
Hey, that’s it for today.